Women Most Powerful Weapon Is Inner Energy

Mother Earth. Image by @bktheartist Instagram
Mother Earth. Image by @bktheartist Instagram

“The healthy woman looks a lot like the wolf: vigorous, full of energy, great life force, capable of giving life, ready to defend the territory, inventive, loyal, wandering. Yet the separation from the wild nature makes the woman’s personality poor, thin, pale, ghostly.” —CLARISSA PINKOLA ESTÉS

In recent centuries, women have believed that their role is passive by nature and men deserve a more active role. A woman is made to love, to feed, to heal, to cradle, to listen. Isn’t that right?

There is a truth that they have hidden from us (or have we forgotten it?): the woman is made to protect and defend, like the wolf, precisely, or the lioness, or the bear.

When a lioness wants to defend her cubs, she doesn’t do it passively. She attacks the predator without fear and with all her energy, no matter if the predator is a group of hyenas or the male lion itself.

We have long forgotten what the true nature of woman is. We must seek knowledge and inspiration in the past, in ancient matriarchal societies. And you know? There are some even in our times.

Ancient matriarchal societies

In our remote past, God was female. Throughout the Paleolithic, the primary divinity was female: In Europe and Asia, anthropologists found the so-called Venuses, abundant and pregnant women, symbols of regeneration and nourishment. The first sculpture of a goddess dates back 35,000 years; it is a pendant of ivory of mammoth, found in the cave of Hohle Fels, Germany. The figurine represents a fat woman with oversized breasts, large buttocks and an accentuated vulva.

In Neolithic times, and during the megalithic civilisations, again the chief divinity was female. Obese female deities were found among the Megaliths of Malta, where a civilisation built temples using large blocks of stone, in the 4th millennium BC. The megalithic settlements had no fortifications, a sign that the war was almost unknown. And they are not only found in Malta but also in today’s Great Britain, France, Spain, Italy and Central and Eastern Europe. Therefore, in old Europe, and not only that, there was a great civilisation before the Sumerians and the Greeks. A civilisation of women, equal, peaceful, who believed in a mother goddess.

The historian Johann Jacob Bachofen (1815-1887) assumed the past of humanity was matriarchal. He claimed that some Greek myths, for example, the Amazons or the story of Medusa, were not the result of psychological problems with the opposite sex, but the memory of real social conflicts, which then led to patriarchy (i.e. the domination of the male over the female). Bachofen believed that patriarchal society won when men took possession of the spiritual power reserved for women.

Dozens of ethnicities are still matriarchal today. For example, the Mosuo of Chinese Yunnan, the Bemba and Lapula of the forests of Central Africa, the Cuna Indians “isolated” off the coast of Panama, the Trobriandesi of Melanesia. And especially the Minangkabau of Sumatra, about 4 million people who still live today basing their society around the values of care and the needs of the community. The core of their organisation is life, not power.

How to recover this now forgotten ancestral bond?

Mother Nature-Canada Picture by Alamy
Mother Nature -Canada Picture by Alamy

We must retrieve the warrior within us. If we allow ourselves to meet the inner ego, to understand who we are, to harmonise the forces within us (male and female, active and passive), then we will respect our nature, and we will be able to live more authentic relationships.

We must dig within ourselves and understand, reveal, bring it to the surface. It is a complicated, painful, but powerful introspective work. Eventually, it will not only benefit ourselves: by rebalancing ourselves we induce men and society as a whole to do the same. In every woman, there is a warrior, and her most potent weapon is her inner energy. Let’s learn how to get it out.

La profezia della Curandera”, by H. H. Mamani is a book that I read recently and that helps to understand and exploit this energy.

“A woman’s most powerful weapon is the inner energy that protects her and everyone she loves,” continued Mama Maru. “It is for this reason that you will have to learn to enter your inner world: only when you discover your true essence, you can use all your inner energy. You are strong and endowed with a lot of energy, which is why you belong to the group of women who can move the world. And yet you have a limit: you don’t know yourself yet, and as a result, you don’t accept yourself.” (H. H. Mamani)

The power of women is to respect and protect life while maintaining harmony between humankind and nature. The path to recovering this truth is complicated, but we can start by following seven teachings from “The Double Goddess: Women Sharing Power”, by Vicki Noble.

1. Respect your body and yourself

The soul is directly connected to the body and communicates through it. When we pollute and poison the body with chemicals and lousy food, or with negative images, or distorted ideas of women, we lose contact with the soul and get trapped in the physical cage of our body. A healthy body is naturally beautiful. At all ages. And it is our best ally in the search for the divine.

2. Challenges are the transformative path to rebirth

In life, we all go through some transformative experiences; often, these episodes are unpleasant or fearful. For example, the loss of a loved one, the loss of a job or an illness. If we let go, we change. This is transformation. It means living as conscious actors and not as spectator-victims of events.

3. The power flows through your hands

“All artists experience, to some extent, contact with the realm of the invisible during the process of artistic creation, and call it muse or inspiration.” Let’s learn to create: a song, a drawing, a dress, a cake, a blog post, a dance; the important thing is to follow the inspiration. It is an intuitive, authentic creative process that nourishes the Warrior Woman, the Woman-Wolf that is within us and that demands our attention with a loud voice.

4. Free your sexual energies from dogma

One of the main characteristics of the ancient female figurines found in archaeology is the evidence of their sexuality, which assumes it was both sacred and actively expressed. In modern society, women are defined primarily as sexual objects and/or reproductive machine; therefore, any process to transform a woman into a subject (not an object) questions her sexual role. Let’s get rid of stereotypes.

5. Intuition and instinct are parts of you: get to know them

Not listening to our intuition is a serious mistake: our instinct allows us to avoid dangerous situations and deceptive people and, above all, it guides us to find our way, to understand who we are and what “labels” do not belong to us.

6. Know the mysteries of the menstrual cycle

The menstrual cycle is ‘sacred’, not sinful. To awaken our feminine power, we need to regain contact with our menstrual cycle, know the mystery of the synchronicity between woman and Moon and the power of the tides and nature. Let’s not ignore it, let’s not hide it, let’s not blame malaise or irritability on crazy hormones. If we listen to our body, we will discover many surprising facts.

7. Responsibility, awareness and action as key points

We need to get in touch with our essence, our inner depth and our ability to act effectively in the world. The world will never be balanced until women can rediscover themselves, respect their nature, express themselves and take actions with freedom and awareness. Let’s take actions.

To free ourselves from the stereotypes and cages imposed by society, we have to learn, improve and release our creativity. To be very practical, today, the digital economy offers us the opportunity to express ourselves following (or finding) our passion.
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BIBLIOGRAPHY
La profezia della Curandera, by H. H. Mamani
The Double Goddess: Women Sharing Power, by Vicki Noble

From Comfort Zone to Learning Zone

Comfort Zone
Comfort Zone

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone” (Neal Donald Walsch)

The comfort zone is a state of mind based on the repetitiveness of living conditions. It is a reassuring routine, made of choices that have become established habits challenging to change, precisely because of the feeling of utmost security they give us. Everything seems perfect; why should we change? Because there is a lot to lose in this condition. Living always in the comfort zone involves a slow and almost imperceptible waiver of change, and with it, we give up the possibility of having an active role in our life.

In short, we put ourselves in an existential cage.

To understand immediately what this means, just think of our personal history, or people close to us, or successful people: every significant success in life happens as a result of a change in the status quo.

Crossing the line that delimits our comfort zone is difficult, generates anxiety and insecurity and unleashes immense fears.

We proceed in tiny steps but with determination, aiming to find a balance between comfort and discomfort, the state that allows you to leave the comfort zone and enter the so-called Learning Zone. It is the zone where curiosity takes over, a sense of familiarity and security is left behind, and real growth begins.

In “The Power Of Moments“, Chip and Dan Heat explain how getting out of your comfort zone is essential to living memorable experiences, and to grow.

“Getting out of the comfort zone is no guarantee of success, but it allows us to learn, to discover what we can do, what we want to become and what we can endure […] success comes if we push ourselves towards the finish line. The intermediate stages are fundamental and stimulate us to give that push because, on the one hand, they are within reach, and on the other hand, they are worth reaching”.

The Learning Zone

The Four Circles
The Four Circles

The learning zone is an ideal zone for learning and self-improvement.

Imagine the comfort zone as a circle around us of varying sizes (depending on our adaptability and flexibility). Outside it there is another circle, larger and frightening: it contains our fears, everything that keeps us trapped in the first circle. Lack of self-esteem, negative thoughts, limiting beliefs, fear of failure, fear of the judgment, just to name a few. It’s a circle populated by our demons.

Getting out of this circle requires enormous courage, and first, we will experience chaos and stress.

What awaits us outside of it is another circle, the Learning Zone. The Learning Zone provides us with beneficial stress.

Nowadays, the term “stress” has taken on a negative connotation; in reality, it has not. It has allowed the evolution of the species, for example, by allowing our ancestors to escape ferocious animals. Within certain limits, therefore, it has positive aspects. Stress determines a total activation that helps us to improve, learn and brilliantly face new situations.

This third circle represents the optimal zone, the one where we can learn new things, improve, overcome our limits and make the best of our performance.

In this circle, we learn new skills, and above all, we reinvent ourselves. I think that in these trying times, plagued by the health emergency called COVID-19, entering this circle is not only essential but vital.

We are in an era of transition; everything is changing around us: travel, social relations, family relations and especially work. Thousands of people have already lost their jobs, and tens of thousands will lose them in the next two years. Some could manage to work from home.

Do you know why they call it “smart working”? The truth is that working from home is brilliant because it has many advantages, especially if you do it on your own. Don’t think about the inconveniences we’re experiencing today, mainly related to the closure of schools and the challenge of homeschooling. Think instead about the possibility of working from where you want and when you want; for yourself and without sacrificing your family. Is this a dream? Nope, it’s smart!

The first thing to explore when we are in the Learning Zone is the Digital Economy. COVID-19 only accelerated the process that already began, which leads to the slow but inexorable death of the traditional economy and the expansion of the digital economy. They call it the Fourth Industrial Revolution, so much so that it is impacting.

The Internet has changed the game. Usually, we call it: “cyberspace”, “worldwide web”, “blogosphere “, “big net”: the idea is that it is a vast space that surrounds and contains us. One of the most popular navigation systems is called “Gopher” (= go far), it means the Internet is projecting you far away.

Entering the Big Net means experiencing the almost magical sensation that the computer monitor is, as in some paintings by Magritte (cit. Marco Longo, psychoanalyst) a window on the world that allows a universal contact and dialogue and gives the idea that everything is possible.

Internet access activates or reactivates curiosity and the desire to experience new possibilities of learning and working. The Internet, thanks to its high degree of interactivity, provides a context in which we can reinvent ourselves and escalate; it increases the expressive abilities of each of us and provides us with a launching ramp.

Any activity (or passion) can be monetarized on the Internet: yoga classes, healthy eating, cooking classes, photography, sewing courses. E-commerce stores are now much more profitable than the traditional ones, we have seen this during the pandemic crisis, and be sure that this trend will continue to escalate.

Where The Magic Happens

Going back to our circles, outside the Learning Zone, there is, finally, the fourth circle: the one where the magic happens! We grow, we reach goals, we enrich ourselves, not only in material but also spiritual terms, we (re)find passion and finally live the life we have always dreamed!

The path through these circles is painful, and it starts with one great act of courage. You already know that your life depends on it. So, don’t give in to fear, take the courage and take the first step out of the comfort zone; book your Free Workshop here to start exploring new opportunities and reinvent yourself. You can do it!

“Courage Is A Muscle.
The more you demand it within yourself & take action, the more you grow and transform.” (Tony Robbins)

Ten Verbs To Start Your Journey To Self-Improvement

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Rubik’s Cube by Pixabay

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” (Aristotle)

The power of thought is real: every thought transforms into a physical state.

For example: if you have to face a frightening situation such as having an interview with your boss, a few hours earlier your body starts shaking; some tremble with fear, others sweat profusely or struggle to breathe.

Likewise, when we are about to meet our loved one, we feel joyful and excited even before we see her/him, we are exploding with joy!

Unfortunately, we are never fully aware of the power of thought and, above all, we ignore that, by directing thought, we can achieve significant improvements in our lives.

More often, however, we focus on everything wrong, and we manage to attract inevitable misfortunes, almost in the form of self-prophecy. We think we will experience suffering in the future, and we are already feeling it in the present.

The first step is to be aware of everything that happens inside us and lead our thinking towards the positive. The ability to create and focus internal images is one of the most powerful learning techniques available to us. Many studies show that an image kept alive in our mind tends to be perceived as real to the body.

Mental images produce effects in the body.

The major problem is to produce images that are truly meaningful and appropriate for effective brain communication.

The mind does not distinguish between an objective experience (really lived) and a subjective experience (powerfully imagined). Bearing this essential element in mind; therefore, we can organise our thoughts positively and improve or change certain personal habits. Of course, thinking is not enough to achieve concrete positive results. If all our thinking remains desire, then we live in anxiety. We need an intermediary, which is involvement. Through involvement, ideas come down to the material level and materialise. Involvement means action, through which the image is stored as if it were a real experience.

A first action we can take is to carefully choose the words to point the brain in a positive direction.

I especially like ten verbs, and I find them very useful on my journey towards personal self-improvement. They are also mighty in children’s education. Again, in my search for information and cues to be a good mother and educator, I found the tool to improve myself in the first place.

Here are my favourite verbs:

  1. Inspire: to fill with an animating, quickening, or exalting influence.
    We see our best version of ourselves when we are motivated and inspired. We must, therefore, feed on stories and people that inspire us to take positive action.
  2. Empower: to give power or authority.
    The easiest way to do this is to avoid using negative words like “I can’t”, “I’m not capable” and start saying to yourself, like a mantra, “I can do it”, “I am capable”, and take action.
  3. Encourage: to inspire with courage, spirit, or confidence.
    Let’s stop criticising ourselves all the time, as, in doing so, we become increasingly insecure, and we increase our fear of failure. Let’s congratulate ourselves, even on small wins.
  4. Understand: to perceive the meaning.
    To understand, we have to listen. So, let’s listen to ourselves, to our thoughts; and let’s try to understand what is the root of our anxieties and fears.
  5. Affirm: to state or assert positively.
    Let’s think about what we’re good at; there’s always something! Reading, driving, painting, organising, running, writing and so on. Let’s recognise that we’re good at something and appreciate it.
  6. Value: to consider with respect to worth, excellence, usefulness, or importance.
    Let’s learn to respect ourselves because we have value. Self-pity or humiliation is very dangerous because, above all, it exposes us to lack of respect from others. If we respect ourselves, we will lead others to do the same.
  7. Engage: to occupy the attention or efforts of a person.
    Let us take action coherently and systematically, we must sincerely focus on what we want to achieve and devote ourselves to it without procrastinating.
  8. Enjoy: to experience with joy; take pleasure in
    Let’s not take ourselves too seriously and learn to have fun! Laughter is a powerful way to strengthen our body and mind. Let’s play with our children, or with our partner or friends. Let’s take some time out just for fun.
  9. Coach: to give instruction or advice in the capacity of a coach.
    We can decide to coach ourselves, but if we are not ready yet, we can rely on a person or a book or an online program to guide us on the path of self-improvement. There are many options now, look for the one that suits us best.
  10. Believe: to have confidence in the truth, the existence, or the reliability of something.
    Let’s believe in ourselves and what we are or can become. Life is not over at 40 or even at 50 or 60, etc., we can all still change and become what we want, but to do so, we must firmly believe in it.

I like these verbs very much, and I have transformed them into my daily spiritual guide, and I encourage you to live these verbs to the best of your ability to begin each day with a renewed spirit.

Print it out and display it well on the fridge or bathroom mirror; using them every day works wonders!

The good idea is to rely on some books that are a classic for self-improvement and are compelling and valuable tools for personal growth. I recommend five of them, but there are many more. Some of them are dated, but they always remain current. Why is that? Because, even if society evolves and habits change, these books continue to motivate millions of people because they are not about the outside world. These books focus on the individual; and man, with his complex but wonderful inner world, does not change. Human nature cannot change: it has been, is and will always be the same.

  1. Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill
  2. The Greatest Salesman in the World, by Og Mandino
  3. How to Win Friends & Influence People, by Dale Carnegie
  4. The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne
  5. Rich Dad Poor Dad, by Robert Kiyosaki and Sharon Lechter

“Our minds create the world we live in.” (Shinjo Ito)

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