How to Close Vicious Cycles: The Three Phases Rule

The rule of Three Phases helps you live in the present. How many times do we fall into the same traps, and each time we promise not to fall again? For example, all those times we say “I always choose the wrong boyfriend!”, or in the office “I always make this mistake with colleagues, or the boss”, or “The discussion with my husband always ends the same way”. It is as if we deliberately choose to hurt ourselves, knowing full well how it will end. And yet, it is more potent than us: we are trapped in a mental loop[…]

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